Proceed with caution when dating online
The drag / click phenomenon of online dating has somehow succeeded in changing the genetic landscape of human interaction. In short, Tinder and e-harmony (albeit frankly opposites) have created an age of accessibility and sexual openness that has never been touted before as an acceptable form of dating.
At first, views on this “new age” form of dating aroused immense apprehension, as people preferred the cloak protection provided by dogmatic forms of interaction. But since the start of the new millennium, along with the pursuit of professional greatness and self-discovery, some women have encountered great difficulty in managing love and life. Singles who are forced to deal with globalization, the fleeting nature of youth, and the goofy search for Mr. Right, are now welcoming online dating. I mean, let’s face it, traditional forms of dating required a certain degree of magic, spontaneity, and being in the right place at the right time. And then, even after establishing a connection for the first time, we have to face the “getting to know you” phase, which can be a time-wasting exercise.
Here is the mirage of online dating. Providing an accessible interface, users can access an endless catalog of faces, biographies and personal details. Applicants are allowed to browse these sites in a manner similar to shopping online, with tangible characteristics leading the way such as initial quality sought. What’s interesting about online courtship is that while it has much more complex undertones than traditional dating, its simplicity puts ease in the foreground. We no longer have to endure the bar scene or pray for a blind date to happen. A barrage of details, real or fictitious, is provided upfront without the hassle of dressing up, the pressure of a public meeting, or the disappointment of a connection that fizzled out before it started. Dr. Ryan Anderson’s article The Ugly Truth of Online Dating revealed that time is the main factor that drives people to engage in online dating. Browsing profiles doesn’t take as much time as mingling with people in a social context and it reduces the pressure associated with being known. It is only when the dust settles on the initial interaction or many conversations later that people venture beyond the reach of the virtual platform and enter the real world. Research from the United States suggests that about one in five relationships starts online. It is estimated that by 2040, 70% of people will have met their partner online.
A quick affair that reaps healthy relationships for some presents a potentially damaging situation both in terms of physical safety and mental well-being for others. Women are incredibly sensitive to the dangers of internet dating and are at a greater risk of being hurt emotionally and physically.
Because of the protective value of the Internet, lies are a common feature of online dating. It is common for potential suitors to use digitally enhanced photos and lie about their tastes and interests to appear more attractive. Yet there are a few uplifting tales that take on a sinister tinge.
In particular, lies about age, financial status, and criminal history can potentially get you into a world of trouble. Due to the level of anonymity offered by online dating, women have been conned into giving large sums of money to men and sexually assaulted after meeting in person.
Another issue that women face when signing up for the online dating trend is the “relationship search vs. search for a good time” dichotomy. A dangerous situation can arise when a potential suitor pretends to be serious about pursuing a connection, only to resort to the ghost once physical privacy is achieved.
With this in mind, women should also be on the lookout for wolves in sheep disguise or men who share rude / disgusting messages, sexual proposals and request nude photos. Although online dating is a platform for meeting other people in a less invasive way, some sites are known to cater to those who are ready to have a “good time.” Women should be aware of this, especially if they are looking for a meaningful and lasting connection.
Interestingly, online dating provides an opportunity to meet people you probably wouldn’t have met otherwise. But it does make women a lot more demanding than usual due to the overwhelming number of options. According to a study by the Association for Psychological Science, people are more critical and inclined to reject a not-quite-perfect candidate than they would otherwise be in a face-to-face meeting. This results in some women rejecting a good match simply because they thought there were “better” options available.
Online dating provides accessibility and sometimes a welcome instant connection in this fast-paced and ever-changing world. This is a business that women should approach with extreme caution, as in some cases the downsides of online dating far outweigh the benefits.